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Are you still a writer when you stop writing? August 1, 2013

Filed under: life,writing — Maceo Cabrera Estevez @ 5:56 am

A couple of months ago I started to have visions of a story. I wrote and the page came to life. I felt normal again or should I say I felt like myself again, my old self who wrote everything down and dreamed big. I took the kids to the babysitter; I took my computer to a cafe and I sat and wrote while I drank coffee and a ate bagel. It was just like the old days in Brooklyn. It was the first time I took the kids to the babysitter to write not to take one to a doctor’s appt, not to go to work, not to clean the house. I took them there to write and I wrote and then…my computer crashed.

I didn’t even cry.
I just stopped writing.

Am I still a writer since I don’t write anymore? I am not sure if this counts. It’s the first time I have written since my computer crashed two months ago. I know other writers have gone longer not writing but how does one go back to writing?

I will tell you the truth.
I am scared.

What if the words dance on the page again and there is a flow and something bad happens, even worse than a computer crashing?

What if I can’t produce anything?

What if I write junk and I think it is beautiful?

What if I just write?

I love being a mother. I just don’t know how to be a writer mama or a mama writer. Which one is better?

Before I went to grad school for writing I checked out other grad programs.
Social Work
Non-Profit Management
And probably something else extremely boring.

I was too scared to just do what I love to do: write.

Since I’ve become a mother I have considered other careers:
Life Coach
Therapist for women with perinatal depression
Urban Farmer

Why don’t I just write?
What is wrong with me?

I am almost 40 and I am wondering how long I will struggle with this.


It is the holy month of Ramadan. For the past three years I have not fasted because I was 8 months pregnant with Omar, then I was breastfeeding Omar, then I gave birth to Azalea. I am still breastfeeding but I am fasting this year. It is humbling and wonderful and I love Ramadan. One of the things I love about Ramadan is that with 16 hours of fasting I have plenty of time to appreciate all that I have, all the gifts God has given me and my family, all the time I get to spend with my kids and less time thinking about myself in a negative way. Sometimes I fail and when I do I pick up the Qur’an and there is always something to read that will remind me of what is important.

It feels like I have been working on myself for my whole life and I have just realized that I will probably die working on myself. That in itself is a blessing and that I am able to write about is even a bigger one.

I guess I just answered some of my questions.

the end.


3 Responses to “Are you still a writer when you stop writing?”

  1. Patricia Says:

    beautiful maceo. thank you for being the writer-mama you are. sending you love from LA. Eid Mubarak!

  2. cavemum Says:

    Mashallah – so many of your thoughts are things that run through my head practically on a daily basis!! You are a writer as long as you consider yourself one. Tell yourself you are and it’ll give you the motivation to write. Look out for writing prompts – I collected a few on a blog post here: http://cavemum.com/2012/03/31/creativity-catalysts/. Just get your pen/keyboard moving, it doesn’t matter what comes out. And if you can share it with someone who’s doing the same you’ll get a different perspective on what you’re doing, often other people see worth in what you scribble and think you’ll just throw away.

    There’s a great book on writing as a creative habit called Writing Down the Bones by Natalie Goldman, it’s really inspiring. She says that any rubbish you produce just goes onto a compost heap, from which great things can grow later. I got addicted to writing again after reading it (can you tell by my long comment, haha). May Allah give you ease, babysitters, time to explore the ideas you need/want to explore, a glitch-free computer…salams from another mama writer across the sea x

    • Ameen. Looking forward to reading your blog more. I am glad I saw one of your posts on Glenda’s page, mashaAllah.

      I love that book Writing Down the Bones. I think I still have it. Right now I am reading Around the Writer’s Block by Rosanne Banes. I am really trying to get through it because I need help!

      Salaams to you my dear.

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